You may be living your dream without realising it

Today I wanted to share with you a common theme we hear in the #RadLivin community, and often something we visit in our own lives during the pursuit of doing what we love.

Sometimes we’re living our dream life without taking stock to realise it. We think that if we can’t see a way of what we’re doing to last forever, then we aren’t fully living in our dream.

‘I want to be in Europe, create content, travel, explore, and feel free.’ Words I announced to my friend Danielle. She looked at me and gave me the, ‘I hate to break it to you but…’ look. ‘You are living that life right now.’ Woah, I hadn’t realised it. Sometimes I feel that I need a concrete plan or things to feel known and laid out for the future in order to feel like my dream will go on forever.

Sometimes we’re living our dream life without taking stock to realise it.

 Don’t let the fear of it not lasting forever keep you from enjoying the moment. 

I remember the same thing happened with #RadLivin – I wanted to make it my job, my career, and my purpose while working on the first and second one. Then looking back, it was my job, career, and purpose. Because I wanted it to last forever, it seemed that it wasn’t safe or at any moment it could end. I didn’t want that to be my perspective moving forward and so I decided it was time for a change in thinking.

Take stock of the false belief: If it isn’t here forever, then it isn’t real.

You’re the one creating your life as you go. There are always ways to do what you want to do; to do what makes you feel how you want to feel. 

Thought question: Can you see your dream as a journey rather than a destination?

Something shifted when I started seeing #RadLivin as a journey, rather than a dream. Changing that perspective of it in my mind allowed me to see it less as goals or things I needed to get done such as sell tickets, get sponsors, and have kickass speakers who are passionate about their message. I asked myself, how can I enjoy creating this? How do I hope the attendees feel and what do I want them to walk away with? How can we add as much fun as possible to this journey every step of the way? That’s how I measured how I was doing and how my dream was going.

My life started to change as a result of looking at my dream as a journey rather than a destination I needed to get to. I decided that I would work from the road and travel, rather than cooping myself up at my office at home where I put a lot of pressure on myself for it to succeed. I expanded, felt spacious, and connected with attendees and the community in person. It became about enjoying each day, rather than specific outcomes happening exactly as I thought they needed to. And guess what? It was one of the best years of my life and #RadLivin doubled in size.

Take time to enjoy where you are right now.

Our dreams are always changing. What we want tomorrow will be different to what we want a month from now, even within the same pursuit or dream. As we continue to grow, our dreams will expand and change. Seeing as that’s the case, it’s important to enjoy where you’re at. To revel in the good in your life right now. To enjoy the pieces that are coming together, the projects you’re working on, the places you’re going, the people you’re meeting. Everything is important.

Thought questions:

Take out a piece of paper or close your eyes and ask yourself the question, what is my dream life right now? (not in five years, ten years, or when the time is right). If you could wake up and do exactly what you want to do right now in this part of your life, what would you do?

What am I excited about right now?

What in my life currently feels the most aligned with my dream life?

What feels the most out of alignment with my dream life?

What can I let go of, even if it’s hard?

What fears do I have that I need to accept? 

What am I going to do to make moves right now? 

What can I remind myself in order to feel safe moving forward?

You got this.