Have you ever gone from being completely positive and trusting that all is good, to then find yourself being brought back into fear?
Life circumstances and engrained beliefs that I thought I moved through surfaced for a final clearing, and I didn’t see it coming. You don’t normally see fear coming but when you feel pretty in control of your mental state the majority of the time, it can come as a bit of a shock. I wanted to snap my fingers and be back to where I was, but looking back to how positive I was made the fear feel worse. The best thing I did was to take it day at a time and when that seemed too much, moment at a time.
Even though it felt like my normal routines of getting out of fear weren’t working, a big part of me knew that I could move through it.
The good thing about fear is that you’re very aware of its presence and you’re in your head. Because you’re in your head, you are conscious of the thoughts going on up there, even if they aren’t thoughts that you particularly like. Being conscious is exactly what is going to get you through those thoughts and into the lighter ones.
Tell the thoughts to get lost.
Over the last couple of years I felt like I had learned so much about self-love that being in that nurturing, “don’t worry it’s ok” state felt natural. That’s when my teachings and personal experiences collided. I was being overly nice to myself to the point that I was being nurturing and kind even to the negative thoughts! When they would come in, I would think things like, “it’s ok, they’re just thoughts and they will pass.” But the nicer I was about it, the more they stuck around. There’s a difference between not resisting something and letting thoughts come in and basically walk all over your psyche. I was doing the later and it was time to try something different. A friend of mine told me to tell them to get lost and so I decided that when the thoughts would come in, I would literally tell them to F-off. It stopped the thoughts in their tracks. I felt in control. When you’re resisting something, they stick around but when you stand your ground and tell them they need to leave from a confident, ‘get lost’, energy they go. The more you do this, the quieter the thoughts will become, and the less you will feel like you need to do it.
Open up to your next positive thought.
After you tell the thoughts to leave, reach for a positive thought. It can be lyrics to your favourite song, an idea for a passion project you’re coming up with or plans for the weekend with your friends. It can be anything, and you don’t even need to think about it for very long. You just need to reach for a positive thought to break the pattern. Choose whatever feels natural for you to think about, because If you’re forcing a thought or a belief it won’t work. These thoughts need to be at a true, positive frequency that you’re comfortable with.
If you can’t think loving thoughts, do loving actions.
When you’re finding it hard to reach for the positive, loving thoughts or to get through feelings of fear, do something that you love. Get moving and these actions can put you back into that loving state. By physically doing something you will allow yourself to get out of your head, even if it’s for a short amount of time, because you’re living in the moment. The more you’re living outside of the negative thought patterns, the quieter the thoughts will become, and by being in that energy of doing what you love you will continue to attract that energy towards you.
Get inspired. Create something new.
One of the most powerful energies to be in is the energy of creating. That incredible energy when you are so inspired you can feel it in every part of you. Go out and get inspired by the things that you love. Whether that’s through going to see a live band, looking through your favourite magazines, or talking up collaborations with a friend, the act of creating something new helps you to quickly get into a positive, inspired state of mind.
